The phrase “take immediate control of your life” conveys a sense of urgency. The issue is… Nobody will come to your aid. This life is entirely your responsibility. I mean, taking immediate control of your life is a responsibility that you cannot delegate.
“You have control over your life. That is something you should never forget. You are who you are because of your conscious and subconscious choices.” (From Barbara Hall)
Although we delegate some responsibilities to others, here’s the main problem with that…
The consequences/results of their actions are still your responsibility. Don’t make the mistake of letting someone else control your life. It is not worth it, no matter how close you are or how much respect you have for anyone.
This is where people get into trouble…
Most of the time, the people in charge of other people’s lives are their parents, friends, or loved ones, making it difficult to reject, resist, or refuse. Here’s the big reveal… You gave whatever is controlling your life power and authority. So everything is still down to you.
They can quit or fail, but you can’t because it’s still your life; however, if you fail, the experience is yours to keep in order to not fail in the same way again.
Sometimes you fail because you follow the advice of others in your life. We even go so far as to ignore what brings us joy in order to please others.
Living your life without being in control is akin to living in the dark. And the problem is that those times are most likely squandered.
10 EASY WAYS TO TAKE IMMEDIATE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE
1. TAKE IMMEDIATE CONTROL BY KNOWING AND LIVING BY YOUR VALUES:
“When a value is born, existence takes on a new meaning; when one dies, some of that meaning is lost.” (Joseph Wood Krutch)
To value something means to attach importance to it; anything that you treasure can be referred to as a “value.” Your life values are the things in life that are important to you. Every decision we make is guided by our values.
It is not enough to have values; is it clear enough? Making a decision is simple when you know what is important to you.
There’s only one problem… Many people know what they want but don’t know who they want to be.
“Getting “things” will never satisfy you. Only living and doing what you believe is “right” will provide you with the inner strength that we all deserve.” (According to Anthony Robbins).
When you live your values, you feel an immense sense of fulfillment. And at that point, you have complete control over your life. When you don’t live by your values, you suffer enormous emotional pain.
Here’s the deal…
Know your values, make sure they are clear, and allow them to influence your decisions. You can then be confident that you are on the right track to regaining immediate control of your life.
2. BE AWARE THAT IT WAS YOUR DECISION:
“Everything that happens in your life—both the good and the bad—began with a decision.” Anthony Robbins (Anthony Robbins)
In life, you either decide your own destiny or circumstances and people do. You have decided to go with whatever life has to offer if you are not making a conscious effort to improve your life. Today is the result of yesterday. Make things happen rather than letting life happen to you. Something must have happened to you or around you. It is up to you to decide whether to give up or take a risk that will change the course of your life.
“If you don’t make decisions about how you’re going to live, haven’t you already made a decision? You’re choosing to be directed by the environment rather than shaping your own destiny.” Anthony Robbins (Anthony Robbins)
This is critical…
Life does not always present you with an equal number of good and bad options. Here’s what I mean: you’re not always presented with two options: completely friendly or completely unfriendly. Any decision you make will always be fraught with danger (especially important ones).
To take immediate control of your life, you must learn to make your own decisions so that you are aware of the path your life is taking.
3. TAKE IMMEDIATE CONTROL BY SEEKING INDEPENDENCE:
“Your life will fly by, so make sure you’re in command.” (From Rob Liano)
Life is like a moving train that cannot be stopped. You can’t stop life from happening; all you can do is make sure you’re in command.
“finding yourself” means “thinking for yourself.” (Socrate)
Being independent here means being able to think for yourself, make your own decisions, and simply be yourself. You must be comfortable handling situations on your own.
Your time is something you should be able to control. To gain control of your time, you must first deal with the things that want to steal it from you. Dealing with them entails exerting control over them. Take Manoj Arora’s statement as an example.
“Money should not govern how I live my life. I need to take charge and become the master of my finances so that I can decide how to spend my time.” (Arora, Manoj)
4. MAKE A GOAL AND STAY FOCUSED:
“What you focus on grows.” (Bennett, Roy T.)
When you embark on a journey, your goals are similar to your destination. If you don’t set goals, you can end up anywhere and believe you’re there.
If you do not make a conscious effort to set goals for yourself, life will set them for you. Because you have no idea where you are going, you will be controlled by people and circumstances.
You can easily overcome anything that contradicts your goal because you know them (your goal), regardless of the current pleasure that it provides.
The tricky thing about having goals is that no human being lives without them. Because you haven’t made a conscious effort to set goals for yourself, the human mind will always set them for you. “Most people’s goals are to “pay their lousy bills,” to get by, to survive, to make it through the day—in short, they are caught up in the trap of making a living rather than designing a life,” according to Anthony Robbins.
To take immediate control of your life, you must first understand who you are now and who you want to be (your Goal) in the future.
5. TAKE IMMEDIATE CONTROL BY MANAGING YOUR THOUGHTS FIRST:
“He is as he thinketh in his heart.” 23:7 —PROVERBS
Every action and decision, including theft, is the result of the mind. To have control over your life, you must first have control over your thoughts. You can’t control your thoughts, so you can’t stop things from happening around you. All you can do is change your perspective.
“The only thing you have some control over is your perspective. You have no control over your situation. But you have a choice in how you perceive it.” (Christopher Pine)
Instead of wasting time worrying about things you can’t change. Consider what you want and where you want to go. Above all, consider your objectives. Thinking about your goals restores your sense of purpose and positivity.
So, what is my point? The only limit to what you can have in your life is the size of your imagination and your dedication to making it a reality.
6. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS:
The first step toward emotional control is to gain control of negative emotions and replace them with positive ones. When your negative emotions of fear, self-pity, envy, jealousy, feelings of inferiority, and eventually anger stop, positive emotions of love, peace, joy, and enthusiasm flow in to replace them, and your entire life improves.
This is critical… Being angry with someone gives him or her control over your emotions and, to a large extent, the quality of your life at that time.
“How do I control my emotions? How do I stop being angry or sad so frequently? And I believe there is an important distinction to make: you cannot completely control your emotions. What you can control is how you react to your own emotions. And a lot of people never make that distinction for what is going on with them.” (Manson, Mark)
Negative emotions make you hostile, irritable, and unpleasant, which I know you dislike. Positive emotions make you feel strong and self-assured.
There will always be situations or circumstances that want to elicit negative emotions. However, being able to control how you react demonstrates that you have control over your life. Accept responsibility for your emotions and don’t try to justify why you’re angry.
7. ACCEPT YOURSELF:
“Becoming a great leader does not imply perfection. It entails accepting your flaws.” (Lolly Daskal)
You already know you’re not perfect, so what others say about you shouldn’t bother you any more. Don’t let others have power over you because of something you haven’t done yet. Life is a process, and there is no such thing as there.
Consider yourself to be the primary creative force in your life. Because of your own choices and decisions, you are where you are and who you are.
What you should be looking for is the area of your life that requires immediate attention.
8. MOTIVATE YOURSELF-REDUCE SELF DOUBT:
If you don’t want to be discouraged all the time, personal motivation is essential. It is beneficial to be surrounded by people who encourage you, but this does not overshadow the importance of encouraging yourself.
Your motivation should come from your goals.
“LARGE GOALS GENERATE LARGE MOTIVATION.” Anthony Robbins (Anthony Robbins)
It is not enough to simply have goals; you must also allow your goals to inspire you. “Many people know what they should do in life, but they never do it. The reason for this is that they lack the motivation that only a compelling future can provide” (Anthony Robbins).
Self-motivation is more original and dependable, but as your inspiration, you must set more realistic and compelling goals.
9. FIND JOY ALONG THE WAY:
We frequently make the mistake of looking for a happy ending only after we have met our objectives. Always strive to find joy while working toward your goals. Remember that you have complete control over your life.
The catch is that being happy is far more important than achieving any goals. Having the mindset of finding joy no matter what helps you control your negative emotions. And your attitude toward things will be positive. Of course, this implies that you are not controlled by your surroundings, no matter what they may be.
10. DO NOT LIVE IN THE PAST BY LAYING BLAME:
When you blame others or make excuses, you give up power. You are feeling weak and diminished. Inside, you are negative and angry.
Refuse to blame others from now on. The present is all you have; don’t waste it by dwelling on the past; instead, use it to build a prosperous future.