“Someone,” “Feel,” and “Important” are obvious keywords for this topic. Of course, “someone” can refer to an unspecified singular personality of human beings, whereas “feeling” is frequently referred to as an emotional phenomenon. In this context, to feel is an emotional trait of touch sensation or sensational concern for or about oneself, an object, or other human beings. While being important implies attracting high priority and having inestimable value, this cannot be accomplished without (Non-negligible). Now consider how you can make someone feel important to you.
It may appear trivial to some why it may be necessary to send the “you are important to me” signal, but as insignificant as it may appear, there are quite a few reasons why it may be important to make someone or better yet people feel important, and with a good summary these include
What Is the Importance of Making Someone Feel Important to You?
It keeps a good relationship going.
Making people feel important not only helps to maintain but also to improve a relationship. Even in a romantic relationship, it strengthens and solves more problems than you can imagine.
Increases self-esteem
Making people feel important improves their self-esteem. Consider this: if everyone treated you the way you treated them, how would you feel, good or bad? That’s exactly the point. “Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you” (the golden rule). I’m sure you wouldn’t appreciate being treated as insignificant or having your self-esteem lowered. As a result, you should make others feel important.
It inspires and motivates.
Consider the workplace: people who feel important in an office setting or are treated as important tend to deliver more and even better than others, most likely because the boss has entrusted them or has given them the feeling of importance, and this has served as a motivating tool because they don’t want to let the boss down. As a result, the sense of importance motivated people to do better.
It has an impact on how people treat you.
As the golden rule previously mentioned states, ‘do unto others as you would have them do unto you’. Of course, how you treat people has a lot to do with how they treat you. Treat them with respect, and you will be treated with respect (‘most likely’ because this does not apply in all cases Lol). But, in general, making someone feel important to you will benefit you more than the person because how you treat people reveals a lot about you rather than them.
The most loved people in the world are often judged by how they make or make others feel when they are around them by the things they do, what they say, and how they behave towards others, rather than how they behave in general.
Life is not a bed of roses, and we hear this and many other things about life every day. Yes, life is not always smooth, and even when it is, the fact remains that no man is an island, and whatever you do in life, you need people, and whether you get help during those rough times or not usually boils down to how well you treat people and how you make someone feel important to you.
On the other hand, aside from the presumed question of why it might be somewhat disproportionate to make people feel important, some people may be asking how rather than why because we often meet people who become important to us or even in our family settings as well as friendships. We all have people in our lives that we care about, but we are terrible at expressing and making them realize how important they are to us. This leaves us wondering how we can possibly make these people feel their importance to us. As a result, the post “How to Make Someone Feel Important to You” was born.
From the inspiration of one of my favorite authors, Brian Tracy, who highlighted seven ways to make people feel important to you in his book “no excuses!! The power of self-discipline,” I added seven more, making it 14 ways to make someone feel important to you.
Accept people as they are.
Everyone wants to be accepted for who they are. Even so, most people have a mental picture of how they want others to behave, what they want others to say, what they want others to wear, and so on. People, on the other hand, appreciate it when they are loved for who they truly are. It boosts their self-esteem, morale, and goes a long way toward assisting them in areas where they believe you will want them to improve simply because you accepted them with their flaws.
Show your gratitude to others.
Appreciation goes a long way toward making someone happy. Have you ever done something nice for someone and not felt appreciated? If you’re being honest with yourself, the feeling isn’t good. Everyone is in the same boat. The most basic form of appreciation is to say “thank you,” which will motivate the person to do even more and better things than he or she has already done.
Be accommodating.
Few people have the gift of being agreeable. It is something that distinguishes people from others. If you have difficulty achieving this feat, you may be forgiven, but try as hard as you can to fight your way to this point. It is the act of not waiting for an opportunity to argue in any situation we find ourselves in. People who are generally agreeable and positive with others are the most welcomed in any situation. Being agreeable to someone demonstrates how important they are to you.
Display your admiration
You’ll be hard pressed to find someone who hasn’t put time or money into something. Showing admiration for such a person’s accomplishment, as insignificant as it may appear, will go a long way toward putting a smile on such a person’s face. This usually motivates the person to set more goals, invest more, and achieve more simply because you’ve demonstrated how important such a person is to you.
Pay attention to those around you.
A man who isn’t constantly paid attention to is a lonely man, and it stinks. Paying attention to someone who is important to you is one of the small things you can do. It is critical to pay attention to even the smallest details. One of the simplest ways to demonstrate that you are paying attention is to ask questions when you notice that something is not as it should be. This demonstrates that the person has someone looking out for him or her and indicates that you are important to such a person.
Never criticize, condemn, or complain about anything.
As common as criticism is. Is usually disliked by the target. Nobody enjoys constructive criticism. As bad as criticism is, condemnation and complaining is even worse. Instead of going to criticize, condemn, or complain, go and advise in a way that does not make the person feel better off. Even when the target is not present, it goes a long way toward destroying trust because those present will believe that the same thing will be done in their absence. Instead of criticizing, condemning, and complaining about people who are important to you, learn to communicate with them.
Respect, courtesy, concern, and consideration should be extended to everyone you meet.
They claim that respect is mutual. When you treat someone with respect and courtesy, it does not take anything away from you; rather, it makes you respected as well. There is probably no better way to show someone how important they are to you than to respect them.
Respect not only makes one feel important, but it also makes one feel valued. Of course, you can joke (constructive jokes), but it’s more beneficial when you get to know another person well enough to know their limits and what they would consider disrespectful in order not to cross those limits: maintaining mutual respect in between jokes.
Learning to call every now and then, as well as visiting, and generally just keeping communication (which would be the main focus) going is critical. Communication entails more than just talking; it also entails listening and paying attention to details.
“When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know but when you listen you learn something new”. Learning something new in this context would imply learning more about the other person; getting to know them better.
Everyone appreciates a listening ear, not just someone who is focused solely on what they want to say, because encountering various species of humans has taught me that some people prefer the sound of their own voice to that of anyone else’s and could care less about what you have to say.
Who better to listen to you yell, rant, and pour out your emotions without becoming tired, irritated, judgemental, or upset with you? I doubt there’s a better someone out there. Try to listen to someone who is important to you as much as possible because showing an interest in learning more about them will make them feel important to you.
“Great communication, and especially comprehension, fosters a deeper level of connection.” Dolly McCottney
Following up
This is what we will all do for people who mean a lot to us. Spending time together is the most basic of all. Make a reminder of everything that is important and dear to the person in question, such as his/her birthday, his/her child’s naming ceremony, and so on. This category includes all of the things that are typically done when wooing a girl. There’s nothing wrong with taking 2 hours off to go out for drinks and then sending an SMS when you get home that says “would love to do things another time.”
Be truthful.
In any relationship, honesty is essential. Nobody will be happy to learn that someone close to them is not being truthful with them. When someone brings all their dirty linens out in the open and comes clean with another, especially if it’s a romantic relationship, I believe it can be seen as a sign of someone who values you and is willing to grow with you because dishonesty jeopardizes relationships. So, try to be as honest as possible with those who are important to you. It boosts their self-esteem and makes them feel special.
Special messages and gift presentations on special occasions
Congratulatory messages during special occasions such as graduation and special messages or gift presentation during special occasions such as birthdays could be a way to express love, gratitude, and encouragement. Even a random gift presentation with no ceremony can make someone feel important to you.
Invitation to Special events, programs, or functions
How would you feel if you were a dear and they were celebrating their birthday or possibly getting married and you were not invited? Isn’t it unimportant? Exactly! Invitations to our special programs or functions may create a sense of closeness and importance. It doesn’t have to be yours; even invitations to special and beneficial programs can have the same effect. The desire to attend a program or function together may give one a sense of importance to another.
Giving Useful Advice, Guidance, and Counseling
When necessary, useful advice, guidance, and counseling can be provided. This shows them that you care about them and are willing to assist them in any way you can. It makes them feel safe and comfortable knowing they can talk to you and run to when they need to be counseled without judgment. This, in turn, will make them feel important to you.
Sharing of Useful Concepts
In a world where everyone is trying to outdo everyone else, we would notice that many people hoard information and ideas that could possibly be useful or help another move forward or be better. Sharing these helpful ideas and information with others will make them extremely grateful and indebted to you. They will not only feel important to you, but they will hold you in high regard knowing that you truly want nothing but the best for them. These ideas could be business-related (how to monetize your skills), academic-related (how to get better grades), and so on.
If you don’t do at least ten of these to the person you claim to be special to you before reading this article, I doubt that person is truly special to you. If I’m wrong, cultivate these habits because they will go a long way toward demonstrating how important someone is to you, and you will be appreciated for it.